Of all
the many wonderful, yes and questionable, things we give
our children in life, few have quite the impact or lasting
impression as the name we choose for them. It's not unreasonable
therefore to take at least a little time to think about
how the name you choose will affect your child, not only
when they're cute and cuddly, little and lovely but also
when they're big and beautiful, or big and burly for that
matter. Here is a little advice, and one or two warnings
to help you avoid forever being the cause of your child's
pain and anguish over an ill-considered or hastily chosen
name.
In ancient
times anyone who could afford it consulted an oracle whenever
they were in need of advice or information. These days there
are so many sources of information we are more likely to
suffer the effects of information overload. There have been
dozens of baby naming books written with alphabetical lists,
origins, meanings, different spellings and common abbreviations
so take advantage of them. Check out the internet also.
The National Statistics web site will keep you up to date
on the most popular names which you may follow, or studiously
avoid, according to your preference
Consider
a name that has meaning, for you, your family or your home
town. Be careful though if the meaning is something best
kept to yourself - I know of at least one child named after
the place she was conceived, fine if it's Kerry as in County
Kerry but not so catchy if Mum and Dad did their romancing
in Watford!
Another
option is to name your child after a figure from Roman,
Greek or Norse mythology. Possibilities include Diana, Victoria,
Chloe and Jason. Again proceed with caution. For example
Thor may be a great first name if your family name is Heyerdahl,
like the famous Norwegian explorer. But don't expect it
to work as well if your last name is Smith.
Have
fun picking out your baby's name. Give way to your silly
side. That way you'll at least get it out of your system,
and you never know you may even discover a name that's just
perfect. Share your ideas with friends and family, but remember
you won‚t please everyone.
Make lists of all the
names you have considered. Write down as many combinations
as you can think of, remembering of course to include a
middle name and your last name, a vital ingredient in the
final result. Consider how each combination sounds. Say
the name aloud, spelled out in full, initials only then
first name, middle initial and last name. Try all the abbreviations
and nicknames you can think of. If you don't do it now you
can be sure someone else will do it for you later.
Use a process of elimination
to make your short list shorter. Delete those that 'just
don't sound right' and those that remind you of people you'd
rather not remember. When you have it down to around ten
possibilities put the list aside for a week or so. You may
be surprised how your feelings may have changed when you
come back to it. Hopefully one or two will stand out as
the best of the best. Put these final few on post-it notes
and display them where you'll see them every day. Before
long you'll know your baby's name. Alternatively, place
a list of names on the wall. Take a dart!